Every person brings a host of thoughts and feelings to the idea of marriage; not so much who she will marry, but the idea of the person she will marry.
These thoughts and ideas come long before we actually meet our potential partner and are formed in the crucible of family, culture and, if you experienced this, a religious tradition. Each of these “voices” makes a significant contribution to how we view ourselves in the thoughts and dreams we have of marriage.
It is vital we know our own “marriage story” as we move closer to the reality of marriage. This story is born primarily out of our family of origin, no matter the integration or disintegration of our parents’ marriage. We project innumerable decisions into our idea of our own marriage out of our experience with our parents.
With a combination of the SYMBIS assessment, counseling, and practical advice, each couple can know their marriage story.
Knowing your “marriage story” will clarify how you envision what your own marriage should—or shouldn’t—look like. This is essential early in every premarital conversation for we marry each other’s idea of marriage as much as we marry each other.
Our premarital program provides over 7.5 hours of individualized counseling.
Dane has worked with numerous couples over the past 25 years as they prepare for the hard work of marriage. His desire is to create a safe and open space that allows couples to explore their shared values, hope, and story together. He accomplishes this by guiding them into a robust and thorough conversation about what a dynamic marriage requires.
Cresson’s passion for working with couples began at Fuller Theological Seminary, where she had the opportunity to train with Dr. Terry Hargrave, a master couple’s therapist. Since then, she has completed Level 2 Certification in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, a research based methodology designed to help couples identify problem areas in their relationship and provide practical tools and skills to address them.
Nick has worked with couples in pre-marriage and early marriage counseling over the past 15 years in both church ministry and professional counseling settings. In his premarital guidance, he works to create a space for couples to have better conversations about themselves, their relationship, and their dreams as they look toward the future.